You Can't Have Him-He's Mine

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Any marriage or long-term relationship can be vulnerable to an affair. In You Can't Have Him-He's Mine, Dr. Marie Browne and Marlene Browne, Esq., outline ways you can protect your relationship-using the techniques and strategies of the homewreckers themselves. This psychotherapist and family law attorney team up to show you: What goes on in the other woman's head to make her go after your spoken-for man, What makes your husband or boyfriend susceptible to her advances, What you can do to stop her. In each chapter, you'll find proven mate-guarding tactics designed to ward off the would-be other woman. Using the authors' tried-and-true methods, you will become expert at assessing your mate as well as the quality of your relationship and home life for "infidelity vulnerability." Further, you will learn which of your own actions and attitudes may have made your man's affair all but inevitable. Fortunately, an encroaching affair is not the end of your relationship. As the authors assert, if you know what to look for and how to react, you can take control of the situation - before the real trouble starts.

Table of contents provided by Syndetics

• Introduction (p. x)
• Part 1 Assessing Love on the Home Front (p. 1)
• Chapter 1 Your Husband's Happiness Factor (p. 3)
• Scratching His Itch (p. 4)
• A Man's Maslow's Needs (p. 10)
• Good Marital Habits (p. 16)
• Chapter 2 Telltales of Trouble Brewing (p. 23)
• Preludes to Infidelity (p. 25)
• Tidings of Potential Trouble (p. 30)
• Altered Personal Routines (p. 32)
• Separate Pursuits (p. 34)
• Financial Changes (p. 35)
• A Cry for Help (p. 36)
• Part 2 Marital Hazards and Husband Traps (p. 39)
• Chapter 3 The Ready Replacement Pool (p. 41)
• Why She Wants Your Man (p. 41)
• Neighbors and Sisters and Friends-Oh My! (p. 44)
• Old Flames and Opportunists (p. 49)
• Turn-About Is Unfair Play (Now That You're the Wife) (p. 53)
• The Other Man-OM (p. 54)
• Part-Time Lovers (p. 56)
• Chapter 4 Knowing Your Rival's Psyche (p. 61)
• A Wife's Guide to Personality Disorders (p. 62)
• Narcissists-Loving Themselves and Your Husband (p. 63)
• Borderlines-Desperately Seeking Your Husband (p. 65)
• Antisocials (p. 68)
• Psychotic Dangers (p. 70)
• Chapter 5 Where Temptation Waits (p. 73)
• Employment Opportunities (p. 74)
• Marital Travel Advisory (p. 84)
• Let's Get Physical Fitness Center (p. 85)
• Home: The Danger Zone (p. 86)
• The Internet-A Modem to His Heart (p. 88)
• Chapter 6 A Look in Your Marital Mirror (p. 95)
• Your Positive Marriage Assortment (p. 95)
• Knowing Thyself-And Thy Husband (p. 98)
• Narcissistic Husbands (p. 104)
• Borderline Mates (p. 105)
• The Psychopath Husband (p. 106)
• Recognizing Your Weaknesses (p. 107)
• Part 3 Seizing Your Wifely Power (p. 115)
• Chapter 7 Wifely Tricks and Advantages (p. 117)
• What You're Up Against (p. 117)
• Embeddedness Benefits (p. 120)
• Exploiting Marital Interdependency (p. 122)
• Giving Good, Um, Attention (p. 123)
• Chapter 8 The Marital Emergency (p. 129)
• Undressing Infidelity (p. 129)
• Understanding the Damage (p. 131)
• Confronting Your Husband (p. 134)
• Explain What You've Learned (p. 136)
• Dealing Directly with Her (p. 140)
• Evaluating EMI (p. 141)
• Affair Typology, Part Two (p. 145)
• Therapeutic Intervention (p. 146)
• Chapter 9 Exploiting Your Spousal Prerogatives (p. 153)
• Gathering Your Allies (p. 153)
• Pillow Talking It Out (p. 158)
• Marital Conflict: You Can Work It Out (p. 160)
• Turning the Tide by Exposing Her Shortcomings (p. 162)
• Chapter 10 Is It Worth the Effort? (p. 165)
• Do You Still Want Him? (p. 165)
• Exploring Your Options with Pros (Lawyers and Marital Therapists) (p. 172)
• Examining the Ex Factor (p. 176)
• Part 4 Deciding How Your Story Ends (p. 181)
• Chapter 11 To Your Own Rescue (p. 183)
• The Damage of Stress (p. 184)
• Mending the Psyche (p. 186)
• The Highest Power Can Help (p. 188)
• Depression Management (p. 190)
• Chapter 12 Dealing with Trauma and Finding Forgiveness (p. 193)
• Toward the New (p. 193)
• A New Beginning, Either Way (p. 195)
• Chapter 13 Potential Costs of Adultery-Regardless (p. 203)
• Emotional Blackmail (p. 204)
• Claims and Charges (p. 204)
• Uncivil Civil Affairs (p. 205)
• Your Rights Against Her (p. 212)
• Chapter 14 Keeping It Together (p. 215)
• What Research Tells Us (p. 215)
• Perceptions Matter (p. 218)
• Physical and Emotional Friends for Life (p. 222)
• Appendix A The Love Scale (p. 225)
• Appendix B Ego Defense Mechanisms (p. 229)
• Appendix C Sexual Self-Efficacy Scale for Female Functioning (p. 233)
• Appendix D Mate Retention Inventory (p. 237)
• Appendix E References (p. 243)
• Appendix F Resources (p. 263)
• Index (p. 271)